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wtfsocialjustice:

Submission:

Asexual, Not a Sexual made some sets of informative business cards about sexual and pronoun preferences. I can’t help but find them a bit silly:

• Pronoun cards: set two, set two (Elsewhere on the blog, she started making custom cards by request for made up pronouns that…

I absolutely cannot take things like this seriously.  I don’t understand why people want to label themselves to the point where it defines their whole identity.  These cards seem self-absorbed and, yes, they do seem attention-seeking to an extent.  I, for one, do not give a damn what your sexual preferences are.

I have no problem referring to someone under the pronouns in which they choose, if they politely tell me so.  When you get mad at someone for using the wrong pronouns by referring to you as she or he when they didn’t know which you prefer (if either), it makes you look foolish.  This is the world that we live in; a world where the majority of people are referred to as “him” or “her”.  When people refer to you as such, normally they do not mean any harm.  This is semi-equivalent (though not as crucial to one’s existence) to a situation where you offer someone a glass of milk and they get pissed off because they’re vegan.  Milk is a beverage and, therefore, it is a part of the beverage options in which you are offering someone. The right thing for them to do would be to say “No thank you. I am a vegan, so I do not drink milk”. They don’t have a vegan label on their forehead and many times people do not think to ask about things like this right away.

If someone makes a mistake by referring to you as the wrong gender or uses the wrong pronouns, please do not get mad.  Yes, some people feel triggered by the wrong pronouns, but that is up to you to control your emotions and understand that most people are not coming from a place of malice in that regard.  If you politely correct the person and they still do it? Then there is a problem and that’s when you get mad.

Handing someone one of these cards instead of actually speaking to them about what you identify as limits that social interaction that you should be having, which is a huge step to creating awareness and basic understanding.